Narcissistic Behaviour in Relationships: What It Can Look Like and How Counselling Can Help

Relationships are meant to be sources of love, support, and growth. But sometimes, unhealthy dynamics take hold — and one common challenge is dealing with narcissistic behaviour. Understanding what narcissistic behaviour looks like and its impact on relationships is key to protecting your emotional well-being.

What Is Narcissistic Behaviour?

Narcissistic behaviour is characterized by an excessive focus on oneself, often at the expense of others’ feelings and needs. People exhibiting narcissistic traits may have an inflated sense of importance, a deep need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.

In relationships, this behaviour can be subtle or overt, but it usually revolves around control, manipulation, and a desire to feel superior.

Signs of Narcissistic Behaviour in a Relationship

• Constant Need for Attention and Praise: The narcissistic partner often demands to be the centre of attention and may react negatively if they feel ignored.

• Lack of Empathy: They may dismiss or minimize their partner’s feelings and struggles.

• Manipulation and Gaslighting: Twisting facts or denying reality to confuse and control the partner.

• Entitlement: Believing they deserve special treatment or privileges without considering the partner’s needs.

• Blaming and Deflecting: Refusing to take responsibility for mistakes and blaming the partner instead.

• Controlling Behaviour: Attempting to dictate who the partner sees, what they do, and how they feel.

• Exploiting Others: Using the partner for personal gain without regard for their well-being.

  
  

How Narcissistic Behavior Affects Relationships

Being in a relationship with someone who exhibits narcissistic behaviour can lead to:

• Emotional exhaustion and lowered self-esteem

• Confusion and self-doubt due to manipulation

• Feeling isolated from friends and family

• Increased anxiety and depression

• Difficulty setting boundaries

• A cycle of conflict and reconciliation that leaves lasting scars

  
  

How Counselling Can Help

Counselling provides support and guidance for those affected by narcissistic behavior in their relationships:

• Validation: A safe space to express feelings and experiences without judgment.

• Clarity: Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behaviour and its impact.

• Boundary Setting: Learning to establish and maintain healthy boundaries.

• Building Self-Esteem: Rebuilding confidence and trust in one’s own feelings and judgments.

• Decision-Making: Exploring options for healing, whether that means working on the relationship or moving on.

• Safety Planning: For those in emotionally or physically abusive situations, counselling can help create a plan to stay safe.

  
  

You Deserve Respect and Care

No one should feel diminished, controlled, or manipulated in their relationship. If you recognize signs of narcissistic behaviour in your partner, reaching out for counselling can be a powerful step toward healing and reclaiming your emotional health.