How Counselling Can Help

Life is not a destination to be reached but rather a process of experiences, challenges and discoveries that need to be navigated. Having said that, sometimes we can come across obstacles that stop us from continuing our journey.

Some people will accept the inconvenience of the obstacle and learn to live with it.

Some people will avoid it or ignore the problems it is causing.

Some people will deny the obstacle is there.

Some people can't see the obstacle and need to be shown it's there.

Some people might want to re-arrange the obstacle so it's easier to manage.

For some, the obstacle is a problem and needs to moved so they can carry on the journey of life.

Avoiding, accepting, arranging or moving obstacles can be a painful and challenging process. We can often feel isolated in our struggles or feel unable to share with loved ones for fear of being judged or misunderstood. However, addressing an obstacle can present an opportunity to improve our life.

Therapy can help you recognise or make sense of the painful feelings and provide clarity and guidance to face the challenges of the obstacle head on and make the changes you need.

It can equip you with tools to overcome obstacles, build resilience and pave the way for a fulfilling future.

Where ever you are on your journey and however you want to approach the obstacle, I will walk with you, support you, encourage you and help you get to where you want to be.

"You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take one step at a time."

Martin Luther King Jr

Examples of Obstacles

Negative Cycles

Negative thoughts, also known as cognitive distortions are thinking patterns that can quickly lead to a downward spiral of negativity. The effects of these thoughts can take a toll on your life and cause real struggles.

Therapy give a safe space to explore the true root of our negative thought patterns, help us discover why we do what we do and what steps we can take to empower ourselves to change the cycle and break free of their influence.

Inner Conflict

Inner conflict arises from the struggle between what we want and what we have to do, and can leave us feeling frustrated and unfulfilled.

Inner conflict usually arises from our life experiences and can translate into anger, fear, disgust and isolation.

Therapy is a great place to work through the conflict so you can be the person you really want to be and achieve your goals, wishes and desires.

Core Beliefs

Core beliefs are unconscious ideas that shape how we see ourselves, others and the world and can be deeply routed and harmful to our wellbeing.

Examples include:

"I'm a failure"

"I'm useless"

"I'm unlovable"

Therapy can teach you how to identify and change your core beliefs so you can finally set them free.

Guilt and Shame

When we feel guilt and shame it can be difficult to see the good things about ourselves and our lives. These invisible emotions are very real and powerful and can hold you back or keep you feeling fearful, unheard, distressed or stuck. They can sometimes lead to depression and anxiety disorders or manifest as physical symptoms.

Therapy can help you identify where these emotions are coming from and help you escape from these harmful and destructive feelings.

Yvonne Dryburgh